Boots on the Ground Parenting: How to Let Go Without Losing Control

March 27  // family // workshops

How many times have you dreamt of a personalized parenting manual? Let’s see, oh yes, page 54, “What do I do when Johnny refuses to go to school”. Page 332, “How do I get Mary to listen”. Page 12,658, “Should I just give my children to the neighbor who seems far more competent”?

Here’s the deal. You don’t need a manual. You need a backbone because parenting is about letting go without losing control; a process that starts at conception never ends and is one of the most important challenges we face as parents. Seeing our parenting responsibility as letting go while staying in charge instead of holding on to reduce suffering requires a philosophical shift from what can I do for my child to what are they capable of doing for themselves.

Your job as a parent is to create an incubator for your children to get to know themselves and learn that they:

  • are worthy of love no matter what.
  • can fail without feeling worthless.
  • can persevere on their own terms.
  • can solve their own problems and make their own decisions.
  • can handle whatever comes their way.

It is these truths that will set them up for independence, success, and happiness.  Truths you cannot give them but instead that you must ensure they earn for themselves.  That is where your backbone comes in!

If you are interested in more information listen to my recent podcast with Mark Tucker of Powerhouse, Inc. and review my parenting tips.



Get Going, Now. Your Burning Daylight.

January 16  // family // personal-growth

Nothing like parenting to make you feel inept. One minute you’re overwhelmed with your own brilliance; the next you are shaking your head with self-disgust. Effective parenting is a moving target, forever imperfect and, let’s be honest, it’s the one … Continue reading

Stop, Look and Listen

November 29  // workshops // personal-growth

I will keep this short. Technology is a powerful and amazing tool for communication, information management and education. Instead of being used as a tool, technology has become a life-style and is robbing us of connection. Does it bother you … Continue reading

We All Have History

June 21  // personal-growth

Have you ever come across a picture from your past that warms your heart? There is a black and white photo on my new website that does that for me. It is the first thing you see — a beautiful … Continue reading

Childhood Trauma and Its Consequences

April 10  // workshops

Trauma comes in many forms and when experienced in childhood can have lasting effects that influence a person’s quality of life. This talk will cover the latest trauma research and how it is being translated into cutting edge therapies that … Continue reading

The Effects of Drugs and Technology on Our Children’s Development

April 6  // workshops

What would you do if the research showed a relationship between eating broccoli and negative changes in your child’s brain development? You wouldn’t feed them broccoli, right! What if the same was true for technology and drug use? This talks … Continue reading

Marijuana: Weeding Out Fact From Fiction

April 6  // workshops

Parents have the greatest influence over whether or not their children use drugs. Being informed is paramount. This talk will cover the latest research findings and national trends related to marijuana use in the teen years and discuss practical tips … Continue reading

Talking to Your Kids about Drugs: Why should you? What should you say? How should you say it?

April 6  // workshops

Parents have the greatest influence over whether their kids use drugs. Communication is key! In this talk you will learn about: Current trends in drug use among tweens and teens How to have an effective and ongoing conversation about drugs … Continue reading

Raising the Touch Screen Generation: The Role of Technology in Our Children’s Lives

April 6  // workshops

Are you concerned or confused about the role technology should play in our children’s daily lives? Join us for a talk that will answer these important questions: How does technology effect early-childhood brain development? How much technology is too much? … Continue reading

Children, Adolescents, and the Media: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

April 6  // workshops

Ever feel like you are parenting your tech-savvy kids without a rudder? This talk covers what current research is telling us about the effect pop culture (music, TV, video games, social websites) is having on our children’s social and emotional … Continue reading